Q-TIPs for Stress Management for the LVN/LPN
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Everyone probably has heard of Q Tips cotton swabs and their versatile uses from applying and removing makeup, painting, and household cleaning. The LVN/LPN uses an elongated version of this short household tool for cleaning around the infant’s umbilical cord, wound care, and if needed, come in sterile packages. Today the acronym Q-TIP can serve the purpose of stress management by redirecting our attention away from stress-filled thoughts. Every time a nurse uses a cotton-tipped applicator, they can be reminded of the meaning of Q-TIP, which stands for “Quit Taking It Personally.”
These four simple letters can buy the nurse or nursing student the time to make choices on how to respond before they are automatically in a state of reaction to perceived stress. As the student nurse in a LVN/LPN program takes on more and more responsibility at their clinical sites, it isn’t easy to just let things go, especially when their patient’s condition worsened or their patient’s family vented their anger. To maintain a caring attitude from the role of student to licensed nurse, it is important to have tools that can quickly get them back on track. Jill Hare in her TheApple article Five Ways to Quit Taking it Personally” reminds us that “The bad moods of others are more about them than they are about you.” Even though Jill’s article is focused on how teachers can build their confidence without taking on the actions of their students, her tools are very appropriate to improving the nurse/patient relationship.
Hare points that in some careers, such as teachering, they tend to think too much about something and try to fill-in the blanks with words or tone that can magnify our stress-response. Her solution to this over-active mind is to “Take things at face value. If you don’t understand the point someone is trying to make, ask for clarification. Don’t assume anything.” Kelly Bryson, MFT, Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer states the following about how to apply Stan Dale’s Q-Tip acronym in his book Don’t Be Nice, Be Real, “People are never angry or upset with us; they are distressed about an unfulfilled need of their won. I may be the detonator but I am never the dynamite.” In other words, there is a difference between acknowledging that we can be a trigger to someone’s stress without being the cause. Nursing students have plenty of opportunities in both the clinical site and the LVN/LPN school to follow the advice from these authors such as Jill Hare who states, “More likely than not, the behavior [of others] is not stemming from something you’ve done, so don’t blame yourself.”
